Doing Less Doesn’t Make You Less of a Mom

It took me 5 years and 4 kids to understand that doing less didn't make me less of a mom.

I used to think of motherhood like it was a job.
The more I did for my family, the more time I spent dedicated to my family = the better of a mom I was.

Every part of what I did I thought of a motherhood.
Laundry = motherhood
Making dinner = motherhood
Remembering and planning everything = motherhood

At one point, my husband took over the majority of the laundry and I felt SO. GUILTY. Clearly I was failing as a mom if I couldn’t do it all, and I couldn’t do it all MYSELF.

Everything changed when I realized: Motherhood isn’t about how you spend your time—it’s who you are.
Doing all the things I was doing for my kids didn’t make me their mom. Someday I wouldn’t do any of those things for them and would still be their mom.

So what was motherhood??? The relationship.

This realization gave me the freedom to stop over-functioning and DO LESS.
My value as a mom didn’t come from everything I did for them — it came from everything I WAS for them.

I don’t have to love being home with my kids all day to love being a mom. 🤯
Once I realized motherhood was more about WHO I was than WHAT I did, I gave myself time, energy, and PERMISSION to do things for myself. I’m not worn ragged. I’m not resentful.
I’m actually enjoying the relationship I’m building with my kids — because I’m not forcing myself to be someone I’m not and I’m not forcing myself to extend myself beyond my capacity. I no longer feel guilty. I no longer have mom guilt.

You don’t have to do it all to be a great mom. You just have to be YOU.

If you’re looking for a safe place where moms get to DO LESS without guilt, come join us! 🥰

XO, Han